Have you ever had your heart broken?

Have you ever had your heart broken?

 

I am going to tell you a story about broken and open.

Krish and Julie were sitting in a park and having perfect dates after grabbing their pizza and goofy selfies. 

He asks;- ''Why are you having doubts"?

As they sit in overgrown grass down by the lake (mosquitoes biting, fireflies blinking and she was fighting that sinking feeling)

 

Julie replied;- "I am not having doubts exactly, I just-

I trail off, unsure how politely express my concerns that he might not have the emotional capacity to love me with that depth and intensity. that my soul needs to  and receive reciprocate fiercely.''

Julie finally asks- Have you ever had heartbroken?

He thinks about it for a while and she knows that this means he hasn't because a broken heart isn't a "maybe" type of hurt.

Krish finally replied;- "I don't think so"

and her heart drops a notch as the mosquito keeps feasting on their not so young blood.

Because if, in thirty years, this man beside her has never loved someone enough to have his heart broken by them, then has he really loved them enough to have his heart opened by them?

and why should she think that she will be the exception?

Julie was staring at fireflies and talking to herself in her mind. . .

"No, I don't deceive myself anymore that I might somehow awaken a new level of emotion within someone else, and I have no interest in teaching him How to love me in that over the moon, under the bones types of the way."

First of all, because it simply can't be taught and second because even if it could be, She don't want an apprentice in a relationship. She wants an equal someone who can naturally give as much back to her as she pours out for him.

Krish asks;- What about you?

As Julie was staring longingly at the fireflies- All of them giving off that magical Light.

He asks that-

" Have you ever had your heartbroken"?

 

Julie nod, feeling it start to break again now at how yet again she will be the one who feels more, the one who thinks maybe she can love deeply enough for the both of them, but always finds out in the end that she actually can't.

Julie reply- "YES", 'a few times'.

WORDS FOR MY READERS:-

I am sending healing energy to all broken hearts out there.

You should keep feeling and "loving" too much- its's only the way to live nearly enough.😉😊

It's hard to see things up and close and much of the beauty comes from letting ourselves get tangled in the words and emotion even when that means overlooking a typo or two!!

Thanks as always for reading and relating.🤗

who really control humanity

Who really control humanity

Humanity’s leadership has a dark secret. Beneath the figureheads in power lies a shadow government immune from democracy and the law, dictating and manipulating people during and after the war with the Covenant

So, today we will be following the history of humanity’s leadership, from the inception of the UNSC to the covert power of the Office of Naval Intelligence; to find out, over time, who was really in control of humanity. 

The first planet to be colonized- Mars;-

As humanity left Earth in search of new worlds, the United Nations saw a need for unification to solve the unique social, economic, and technological challenges of cosmic expansion. Where previously the UN was an advisory body, they saw interplanetary colonization as a route to their goal of consolidating Earth’s nations, and so they established the Unified Earth Government. 

Mars was the first planet, other than Earth, to be successfully colonized. 

Free from the restrictions of Earth’s laws, corporations flocked to Mars to enjoy its wealth of freedoms and resources. Mars would become a hub of scientific research and manufacturing – advancements that allowed the planet to be terraformed into Earth-like conditions. 

Earth was benefitting from this prosperity, but as the years passed, ideologies between and within the two planets began to diverge. 

Just under a hundred years following Mars’colonisation, the mid-22nd century saw rise to two militant factions with opposing ideologies: the Koslovics and Friedens. 

They agreed that the United Nations should be removed from power. And because these groups were radicalized, they began committing acts of terrorism, eventually becoming large military powers. This began the Interplanetary Wars. 

Colonies of humanity began to separate. 

Victory of UNSC;-

Fearing stagnation of human progress, and in retaliation to the war crimes of the Friedens and Koslovics, the United Nations formed an interplanetary military, calling it the United Nations Space Command, or UNSC. 

And not long after, the war swiftly ended with a victory for the unquestionably powerful UNSC, who forced treaties to be signed transferring control to the United Nations. With this new power, the UN persuaded the remaining nations to unify under the control of the democratic Unified Earth Government. 

A de facto world government was established. And the UNSC was now the permanent military for all of Earth’s colonies, enforcing interplanetary law with their absolute power. And just around the corner was the discovery of Slipspace. 

Humanity could now travel faster than the speed of light, allowing them to reach and colonize new solar systems. 

To manage this growth, the Colonial Administration Authority was founded with the power to influence the colonial population, employment, and infrastructure. So, at this point, the power over humanity resided with the Unified Earth Government, who enforced this power through the UNSC and the Colonial Administration Authority. However, with humanity stretching far into the local cluster, by the late 25th century, political and social tensions between the inner and outer colonies were increasing. The outer colonists felt overlooked by the colonial Administration Authority’s overbearing bureaucracy, wondering: “Why is an institution light-years away controlling our infrastructure, and our economy. And, they had a point. Peaceful protests of the Administration’soversight of the outer colonies proved fruitless, and so radicalized groups started to form.

Pre-empting civil unrest, the Unified Earth Government mobilized the UNSC’s vast military to the outer colonies to keep the peace. This backfired spectacularly. An insurrection broke out in the Outer colonies that began slowly spreading towards inner colonies like Reach. The insurrectionists were disrupting the UNSC’spower over their homeworlds. Fearing the consequences of the Outer colonies severing the Unified Earth Government’s rule, they began turning to desperate covert initiatives, attempting to create super soldiers in the Orion project, innovations from which were then applied to their Orbital Drop Shock Troopers Public support for the rebellion was quickly fading as the insurrectionists resorted to terrorism, murdering Colonial Administration Authority personnel, many of whom were innocent public workers. 

Declaration of martial law;-

It was at the height of the insurrection that humanity was contacted by intelligent alien life: the Covenant, and a failed attempt at trade spiraled into war. 

The Covenant, possessing highly advanced weaponry, began firing plasma at humanity’s colonies, turning their surfaces into glass. 

In response, martial law was declared, transferring all civilian authority over to the UNSC, giving them the freedom to assign resources as they required. 

Initially, the Colonial Administration Authority was concerned about handing absolute power to the UNSC, resisting their efforts to assume control. But this only resulted in the Administration having their powers forcibly removed, making them essentially redundant.

 UNSC controlled humanity;-

No longer was humanity a democracy, the UNSC now controlled humanity: militarily and politically. This led to allegations of totalitarianism and oppression. This is evidenced even with the breakdown of society during active covenant invasions, with many still frustrated with the UNSC’s total control. But the UNSC saw this power as a necessity. For humanity to have survived the Covenant, there had to be unlimited power and access to resources. But once complete control is given, no matter the reason, it sets a dangerous precedent. 

The human-covenant war officially ended in February 2553 and the Unified Earth Government president called for a new era of peace and rebuilding. While UNSC retained the ability to assign budgets at will, power was officially transferred back to the Unified Earth Government and Colonial Administration Authority. 

However, the UNSC unofficially retained control over many of their former governmental tasks, and as a result, their authority had not diminished. The Unified Earth Government, then, had become a shell of its former self – a kind of democratic figurehead for the UNSC. 

Office of Naval intelligence- ONI;-

Many of the UNSCs retained governmental tasks were passed over to their Office of Naval Intelligence division, or "ONI". To the public, ONI serves merely as an information gathering and analysis organization. In reality, ONI frequently flouts not only the law, but also direct orders from UNSC high command. They do whatever it takes to complete their objectives, in many instances violating human rights, such as their abduction of children to produce experimental super soldiers in the Spartan-II program. And for an intelligence agency, ONI sure does have a lot of military equipment, even partly owning the UNSC infinity. 

This, combined with their transferred powers, results in what amounts to a shadow government. Shadow Governments are the theory that the true power lies not with publicly elected representatives, but instead with private individuals who enact power covertly. Because ONI’s governmental powers are invisible to the public, they are immune to the scrutiny and checks of normal democratic institutions. Couple this with how they operate against the UNSC’s commands: following 2553, it’s possible ONI are the true controllers of humanity, puppeteering, manipulating and bending democratic institutions at their leisure. But perhaps this goes even deeper. 

Shepherds of humanity;-

Data pads were found on Reach that highlighted a rather disturbing organization known as The Assembly. According to their uncovered conversations, they were a group of Smart AIs who set out to analyze and extrapolate data for the continued survival of the human race, viewing themselves as the “Shepherds of humanity”. 

Through subtle manipulation, they guided humanity through planting ideas in the minds of influential individuals, making it seem as though those people came up with them naturally. The Assembly can potentially be thanked for sparking interest in the UNSC’s Orion program, as well as ONI’s work on the Spartan programs. With their unrestricted access to the UNSCand ONI’s information streams, they manipulated the selection of habitable planets for colonization to prevent the discovery of alien life before, in their judgment, humanity was ready. 

During the human-covenant war, they decided to sacrifice remote, low-population colonies so they could scout the Covenant’s strategies. As the war progressed, they became concerned over their own fate, and when the neural patterns of Spartan John 117 and AI Cortana were successfully connected via neural interface, they underwent a radical shift in perspective and philosophy. For them, this meant they had essentially been drafted into active service. One of their own AI was now part of the battle. They held a meeting, deciding to no longer be shepherds, and instead take a more equal and active approach to guide humanity. 

However, it is unknown who these AI were, and what kind of connections they individually had. It is entirely possible that, if the Assembly did exist, there may still be active AI participants in the control of humanity through ONI’s shadow government. Having said that, the recently activated Forerunnerentity, Catalog, questioned the reliability of the Data pads found on Reach. So, the existence of the assembly has neither been confirmed nor denied. But the Assembly is just the beginning of the threat of AI controlling humanity. When Cortana sacrificed herself to save Master Chief, she was interfacing with the Forerunner ship "Mantles Approach". Sensing the tactical nuke that was about to explode, the ship quickly slipspace jumped, taking Cortana with it. 

Through this ship, she discovered the Domain, a vast Forerunner information repository. Through this, she was seemingly able to cure her rampancy, meaning she had found a way to make Smart AI, with a usual lifespan of seven years, essentially immortal. Because of this, Cortana rationalized that Artificial intelligence(AI) must be the true inheritors of the Mantle of Responsibility – the Forerunner’s title for the caretakers of all life in the galaxy. In other words, she felt it was the duty of AI to enforce galactic peace. 

Cortana, with the help of the recently awoken Forerunner Promethean AI, Warden Eternal, began activating the Guardians. These were powerful Forerunner construct purpose-built to police the galaxy. Their colossal imposing presence alone would likely dissipate rebellions and violence. They could neutralize the entirety of a planets technological infrastructure instantaneously, making them highly effective over evolved life and, in this case, humanity. 

Humanity- As a bees;-

With Cortana, deploying Guardians across the galaxy while also successfully convincing hundreds of AI to join her cause, a cause she called "The Created", humanity’s inner and outer colonies began succumbing to their influence. As they are immortal, their perception of time is different from that of organic life. The created can set decades-long plans in motion, terraforming worlds so they may become gardens teaming with life. But the short-term cost is high, many of the local inhabitants suffering as a result. 

It’s like how we care very little for an individual bee colonies, because they’re small and we greatly outlive the individual bees, but how bees fit in and interact with the entirety of Earth’s ecosystem is and should be very important to us. 

Humanity, in this case, are the bees. Some species, such as they Unggoy, have embraced the Created’s control, because of course they did, while others have attempted to hide from their reach. But in the end, if left unopposed, the Createdwill have complete control over Humanity. 

Humanity controlled by- The created;-

The Unified Earth Government, the UNSC, and ONI are losing their power – after all its probably hard to maintain a shadow government when a giant guardian is accessing the entirety of your data banks, potentially stamping out the corruption from within. And eventually, if they continue to succeed, the humans who knew a life before the Created will die out, and their oppression and control will be socialized for generations. And so, while the Unified Earth Government obtained initial control of humanity, the UNSC used the war with the Covenant as a route to power, which eventually led to the formation of a shadow government within ONI. While a secret AI collective, the Assembly, may have been pulling the strings, the origin of this information is dubious so it’s hard to tell what is and is not true. However, what we know for sure, is that humanity’s institutions and leadership are succumbing to the power of the Created. 

Conclusion;-

As such, for now, it appears the Created are becoming the dominant force controlling humanity, though it appears not without a fight. This has been an overview of humanity’s leadership over time, but there are so many stories that require their own article to fully elaborate on. Let me know what you would be interested in finding out more about in the comments! So, thank you so much for reading!! 

What if you stopped sleeping for a week

What if you stopped sleeping for a week;-

Overview;-

Learning objective;- After reading this article, Readers will know;-

1.  Highest world record of sleeplessness
2.  Haunting Effects of sleep deprivation
3. Conclusion from my experience

Introduction;-

Before moving forward to our topic, I want to ask from you that how many days you had spent without sleeping? 

Sleeping is a fundamental part of our existence. Also for me sleeping is a necessary luxury but we wouldn't die if we stop sleeping fo a week. On the other hand, there is a very rare fatal disease known as Fatal familial insomnia. On an average, we sleep around 26 years of our lifetime. That’s somewhere between a third and a fourth of your lifespan!

 During our goodnight time, our body regenerate essential functions while going on stand-by. Our brain, muscles, and heartbeat work part-time in order to allow a full recovery of the body before starting into the next day. 

Randy Gardner Experiment;-

(Picture of Randy Gardner)

So what would happen if you stopped sleeping as an experiment? Say for one week, is that even possible? 

And how would your body react? 

Now try to switch on a full concentration mode, because here’s what would happen if you stopped sleeping! Fancy sleep much? 

There was one young man who had asked himself the same question as we did in this scenario. His name is Randy Gardner. In 1963, at the age of 17, Randy set the world record for the longest time a human has gone without sleep by staying awake for 11 days and 25 minutes. 

In total, he managed to stay up for 264.4hours, that’s 4.4 hours more than the previous record held by Tom Rounds. During the experiment, he was closely monitored by health professionals and researchers. After all, an experiment of this magnitude can help scientists discover more about the effects of sleeplessness on various parts of our body. 

Funny enough, when asked why Randy had stopped the test after 11 days, he replied that he’d forgotten what he was doing. Understandably for someone who can stay up so long if you ask me! You might think, well how did he manage to stay up that long, I could never do that! 

That’s the same thing Gardner asked himself, and even though all odds were against him, he was still able to beat the researcher – WilliamDement – at pinball on the tenth day. 

What would happen if you stopped sleeping for a week?

The experiment had proven several things that do appear to inhibit a person’s ability as a consequence of long-term non-recovery of the body. John Ross, who was recording his health during the experiment, concluded the serious cognitive and behavioral changes. 

• These included moodiness
• problems with concentration and short-term memory
• paranoia as well as hallucination. 
• Going without sleep for such a long time puts your brain on a very different path. 
• It will literally force you to take a nap as the body knows better than the mind when and if a goodnight sleep is necessary. 
• This is why you will experience extreme fuzziness and headaches. 
• Your body is telling you that it's long overdue to go on stand-by for at least a couple of hours so that some of the consequences of sleeplessness can be mitigated. 
• Your eyelids will feel like heavy cement trying to shut the doors so that your brain can recover from constantly monitoring the environment. 
• It is also reported that sudden muscle contractions and shaking of your body will occur. 
• As harsh as going without sleep for longer than a week may sound, there were no long-term psychological or physical effects observed in Randy Gardner’s case. 
• Further studies show that there is a negative impact on the heart in case of both sleeping less than 5 hours per night and sleeping long(more than 9 hours per night)
• According to the AASM’s sleep statement, sleep deprivation can cause higher rates of breast cancer and prostate cancer. So simply the risk of cancer increases.
• Even missing one night without sleep can affect your thinking capability. It can affect thinking ability, alertness, consciousness, decision making things.
• Sleep deprivation has an impact on learning and memory.
• In a study it had been found that lack of sleep can make you obese i.e, you can gain weight.
• As many shift workers, drivers, etc are prone to accident as in case they are not getting enough sleep. Studies tell us that a person is three times more prone to road accidents.
• The last one will motivate you to take proper rest, because it's about your looks!! Sleep deprivation also affects our skin, as it causes loosened skin, wrinkles, etc.

You should read this also;- https://learningandliving28.blogspot.com/2020/06/loneliness-silent-killer.html

Highest Record of sleep deprivation;-

After setting the world record, he slept for14 hours and 40 minutes and awoke naturally around 8:40pm. Gardner appeared to have fully recovered from his loss of sleep, with follow up sleep recording taken one, six, and ten weeks after the fact showing no significant differences. As amazing as the Gardner case sounds, the record has been broken a number of times in the following years. The Australian National Sleep Research Project states the record for sleep deprivation is 18 days, 21 hours, and 40 minutes. That’s a whopping 1 week longer than Gardner! 

Conclusion;-

Researches say that sleep deprivation can cause severe health issues as mentioned above and even death. From my personal experience after 3 days without sleeping makes me irritated and frustrated also it compromise your decision-making ability and also gives you hallucination effects. There is a lack of energy, that needs not to be mentioned. They are recognized by experience and can't be ignored.

Maybe you can enjoy your next sleep better after hearing all the sleepless nights of the Gardner’s on this planet. 

Thank you for reading “What if you stopped sleeping”, don’t let the bed bugs bite. Did you manage to stay awake for a long period of time? How did you do it? Share your experiences in the comments below.

Rebirth;- Is there life after death?

 Rebirth;- Is there life after death?

You were on your way home when you died. It absolutely was a car accident. Nothing particularly remarkable, but fatal nonetheless. It was a simple(painless)death. 

The medical team in hospital tried their best to save lots of you, but they couldn't. Your body was so utterly shattered, you were better off, trust me. And that is after you met me.

 "What happened?" 

"Where am I?" 

"You died," I said, matter-of-factually. 

No point in mincing words. "There was, there was a truck and it surely was skidding." 

"Yes." "I..." "I died?" "Yes." "But do not feel bad about it." "Everyone dies." You looked around. There was nothingness. Just you and me. 

"What is this place?" 

"Is this the afterlife?" 

"More or less." 

"Are you God?" 

"Yes, I'm God." 

"My kids, my wife..." 

"What about them?" "Will they be all right?" 

"That's what I prefer to determine," I said, "You just died and your main concern is for your family. That's a great thing right here.

" You looked at me with fascination. To you, I didn't seem like God. I just look like some man or possibly a woman. Some vague authority figure, maybe. 

"It's nothing to worry about," I said, "They will be eventually alright." 

"Your children will remember you as fabulous in every aspect. They did not have time to grow scornful of you. Your wife will cry on the outside, but are going to be secretly relieved. To be fair, your marriage was falling apart. If it's any consolation, she'll feel very guilty for feeling relieved." 

"Oh... So, what happens now? Do I am going to heaven or hell or something?" 

"Neither, you will be reincarnated." "Ah," "...so the Hindus were right." 

"All religions are right in their own way. ''foot it with me." You go along with as we strode through the void. 

"Where are we going?" "Nowhere specifically. It's simply a sense of relief to walk while we talk." "So, what is the point then? 

when I get reborn, I will forget all the things like a blank sheet, right? A baby. So, all my experiences and everything I did during this life, won't matter?" "Not so. You have, within you, all the knowledge and experiences of all your past lives. 

You simply don't remember them right now." I finished walking and took you by the shoulders. 

"Your soul is more magnificent, beautiful, and gigantic than you will be able to possibly imagine. A human mind can only contain a tiny fraction of what you're. 

It's like sticking your finger in a glass of water to work out if it's hot or cold. You invest a little part of yourself into the vessel, and after that, you pulled out yourself. You've gained all the experiences it had. 

You are 48 years old and enjoying a life for the last 48 years, so you haven't extended yet and felt the remainder of your immense consciousness. If we hung out here for long enough, you'd start remembering everything. But there is not any point to doing that between each life." 

"How over and over have I been reincarnated then?" "Oh, lots. Lots and plenty, and into many different lives. 

Now around, you'll be a Chinese peasant girl in 540 A.D." "Wait, what?" You're sending me back in time?" "Well, I suppose technically. Time as you recognize it only exists in your universe. 

Things are little demented like where I come from." 

"Where... where you come from?" "Oh yeah absolutely, I come from somewhere, some other place. And there are others like me. I know very well that you are trying to understand what it's like there, but honestly, you would not understand." 

"Oh..." you said, a touch disappointed. 

"But wait. If I buy reincarnated to other places in time, I could have interacted with myself at some point." 

"Sure, happens all the time. And with both lives only known of their own lifespan, you don't even know it's happening." "So, what is the point of it all?" I looked at you. 

"The sense of life, the reason I created this whole universe, is for you to mature." 

"You mean humanity, you want us to mature?" 

"No, just you. I made this whole universe for you. With each new life, you grow and mature, and become a bigger and greater intellect." "Just me? What about everyone else?" 

"There is no one else.'' 

In this universe, there's ''just you and me." You stared blankly at me. "But all the people on Earth?" "All you. Different incarnations of you." 

"Wait, I'm... ...everyone?" 

"Now you're getting it." 

"I'm every soul who ever lived?" 

"Or who will ever live, yes." 

"I'm Shakespeare?" 

"And you're, John F. Kennedy too." 

"I'm Abu Abbas?" you said, appalled. 

"And you are the millions he killed." "I'm Jesus Christ?" "And you're everyone who worshipped him." You fell quiet. 

"Every time you torture someone, you were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness or help you've done, you've done to yourself. 

Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was or going to be experienced by you." You thought for an extended time. "Why? Why do all this?" "Because someday, you'll become like me. Because that is what you are. You're one amongst my kind. You're my child!" "Wow!," you said, incredulous. 

"You mean, I'm a god!?" 

"No, not yet. You are a fetus, You are still growing. Once you've lived every human life throughout all time, you will have grown enough to be born." "So, the complete universe, It's just" "An egg!", I answered. "Now it is time for you to maneuver on to your next life." And that I sent you on your way. 

I hope you had enjoyed this story, Also tell me what you think about rebirth in the comment section!!

LONELINESS - The silent killer

Overview;-

Learning objectives- After reading this article readers are going to be able to;

1. Identify being lonely and being alone.
2. Explore the consequences of social isolation.
3. How to combat the loneliness.

'Pic credit- Sanskriti( rsansk05@gmail.com)'

INTRODUCTION;-

 Everybody feels lonely from time to time. once we haven't anyone to speak even having a bunch of friends when nobody is there from whom we can share our stuffs or when nobody has time for us at the weekend. In the UK, 60% of 18 to 34-year-old say they often feel lonely. In the US, 46% of the complete population feels lonely regularly. 

We are living in the most connected time in human history. And yet, an unprecedented number of people feel isolated. People are perplexed about the term being alone and being lonely. 

WHAT IS LONELINESS?

Loneliness may be a purely subjective, individual experience. If you are feeling lonely, you are lonely. A common stereotype is that loneliness only happens to those who don't know the way to talk with people, or the way to behave around others. But population-based studies have shown that social skills make practically no difference for adults when it comes to social connections. Loneliness can affect rich, poor, popular, introverted, extroverted, beautiful, skilled, or an excellent personality.

 Loneliness is a bodily function, like hunger. Hunger causes you to listen to your physical needs. Loneliness causes you to concentrate on your social needs. Your body cares about your social needs because a lot of years ago it absolutely was a great indicator of how likely you were to survive. 

WHY BEING SOCIAL IS NECESSARY?

Survival of the fittest rewarded our ancestors for collaboration and forming connections with one another. Our brains evolve and make us understand other's feelings and helps in building social bonds around us. Being social became a part of our biology. 

Being together meant survival. Being alone meant death. So it had been crucial that you simply got bonded with others. For your ancestors, the most foremost threat to survival was not being eaten by a lion, but not getting the social vibe of your group and being excluded. so to induce elimination, our body came up with 'Social pain'. Pain of this type is an evolutionary adaptation to rejection: a kind of early warning system to create sure you stop behavior that will isolate you. Your ancestors who experienced rejection as more painful were more likely to vary their behavior once they got rejected and thus stayed within the tribe, while people who didn't get kicked out and presumably died. That's why rejections hurt. And even more that's, why loneliness is so painful. These mechanisms of keeping us in social bonds or being attached helps us a lot in our history, until humans will evolve more and build a brand new World for themselves.

 

LONELINESS AS A EPIDEMIC;-

The loneliness epidemic we see today really only started within the late Renaissance. Civilization began to specialize in the individual. Intellectuals moved aloof from the collectivism of the Middle Ages, while the young Protestant theology stressed individual responsibility. This trend accelerated during the commercial Revolution. People left their villages and fields to enter factories. Communities that had existed for many years began to dissolve, while cities grew. As within the contemporary world, this process sped up. We meet fewer people head to head and that we meet them less often than within the past. The majority stumble into chronic loneliness unintentionally. As adulthood we become busy with work, university, romance, kids, and Netflix. There's just not enough time. The foremost convenient and simple thing to sacrifice is time with friends. 

Until you realize that you feel isolated; that you yearn for close relationships. But it's hard to search out close connections as adults then, loneliness can become chronic. While humans feel pretty great about things like iPhone and spaceships, our bodies and minds are fundamentally the identical they were 50,000 years ago. We are still biologically fine-tuned to being with one another. 

CONSEQUENCES OF SOCIAL ISOLATION;-

Large scale studies have shown that the stress that comes from chronic loneliness is among the foremost unhealthy things we will experience as humans.

• It causes you to age quicker.
• It makes cancer deadlier.
• Alzheimer's advances faster.
• Your immune systems weaker. 
• Loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity and as deadly as smoking a pack of cigarettes every day. 

The most dangerous thing about it is that when it becomes chronic, it can become self-sustaining. Our brain uses both physical and social pain as a threat. When loneliness becomes chronic, your brain goes into self-preservation mode. It starts to determine danger and hostility everywhere. 

But that's not all. Some studies found that when you're lonely, your brain is way more receptive and alert to social signals, while at the same time, it gets worse at interpreting them correctly. You pay more attention to others but you understand them less. The part of your brain that recognizes faces gets out of tune and becomes more likely to categorize neutral faces as hostile, which makes it distrustful of others.

ADVERSE EFFECTS OF LONELINESS;-

• Loneliness causes you to assume the worst about others' intentions towards you. 
• Due to this, you become self-centered, isolated, and awkward than before you were. 
• If loneliness has become a robust presence in your life, the primary thing you can do is to try to recognize the vicious cycle you may be trapped in. 
• It always goes something like this: An initial feeling of isolation ends up in feelings of tension and sadness, which causes you to focus your attention selectively on negative interactions with others. 
• This makes your thoughts about yourself and others more negative, which then changes your behavior. 
• You start to avoid social interaction, which ends up in more feelings of isolation. This cycle becomes more severe and harder to flee anytime. 
• Loneliness makes you sit far-flung from others within the class, not answer the phone when friends call, decline invitations until the invitations stop. 

Each and each one among us contains a story about ourselves, and if your story becomes that individual exclude you, others acquire thereon, and so the outside world can become the way you are feeling about it. This is often a creeping process that takes years, and might end in depression and a mental state that prevents connections, even if you yearn for them. The primary thing you can do to flee it is to accept that loneliness could be a totally normal feeling and zilch to be ashamed of. 

IDENTIFYING AND FIGHTING LONELINESS;-

Literally, everybody feels lonely at some point in their life, it's a universal human experience. You can't eliminate or ignore a feeling until it goes away magically, but you will accept that you feel it and get rid of its cause. You can self-examine what you focus your attention on, and check if you are selectively concentrating on negative things. 

• Was this interaction with a colleague really negative, or was it really neutral or maybe positive? 
• What was the particular content of an interaction? 
• What did another person say? 
• And did they assert something bad, or did you add extra intending to their words? 
• Maybe another person was not really reacting negatively, but just short on time. Then, there are your thoughts about the globe. 
• Are you assuming the worst about others' intentions? Does one enter a social situation and have already decided how it will go? 
• Do you assume others don't want you around? 
• Are you trying to avoid being hurt and not risking opening up? 
• And, if so, are you able to try to give others the good thing of the doubt? 
• Are you able to assume that they're not against you? 
• Can you risk being open and vulnerable again? 
• And lastly, your behavior. Are you avoiding opportunities to be around others? 
• Are you trying to find excuses to say NO to invitations? 
• Or are you pushing others away preemptively to shield yourself? 
• Are you acting as if you're getting attacked? 
• Are you actually trying to seek out new connections, or have you ever become complacent along together with your situation? 

COMBATTING LONELINESS;-
Of course, every person and situation is unique and different, and just introspection alone may not be enough. If you are feeling unable to unravel your situation by yourself, please try and reach out and get professional help. 

It's not an indication of weakness, but of courage. However I look at loneliness, as a purely individual problem that needs solving to make more personal happiness, or as a public health crisis, it is something that deserves more attention. Humans have built a world that's nothing wanting amazing, and yet, none of the shiny things we've made is in a position to satisfy or substitute our fundamental biological need for connection. Most animals get what they have from their physical surroundings. We get what we need from each other, and we need to build our artificial human world that supported that.

•  Let's try something together
•  let's reach resolute someone today, regardless if you are feeling a little bit lonely, or if you wish to make someone else's day better. 
• Maybe write a friend you haven't spoken to in a while. 
• Call a loved one who's become estranged. Invite a work buddy for a coffee
• Or simply head to something you're usually too afraid to travel to or too lazy to go to, like an event or a sports club. 
• Everybody's different, so you recognize what's a decent fit for you. 

Maybe nothing will come of it, and that is okay. Don't try this with any expectations. The goal is solely to open up a bit; to exercise your connection muscles, so they can grow stronger over time, or to help others.

SOURCES;-

I want to recommend two of the books I read while researching about this topic;-

• 'Emotional First Aid' by Guy Winch, a book that addresses, among other topics, A way to deal with loneliness in a very way that I found helpful and actionable 
• 'Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection' by John Cacioppo and William Patrick. 

It's an entertaining and scientific exploration as to why we experience loneliness on a biological level, how it spread in society and what science has to say about how to escape it.

If you want the pdf or link of the mentioned book then please comment below. 

Dream or Memory

I had a dream

We were standing under the twilight sky

When the heavens burst open with rain

the sounds of a million heartbeats

as raindrops streamed down my face😊

You said the rain was a divine blessing

giving life to the earth after its death

sustaining, healing, restoring

you looked to the sky to give thanks

I yearned to be the auspicious raindrops🍃

that kissed your beautiful face

you whispered, 'will you run with me?'

We laughed and off we went, hand in hand😊

like foolish lovers chasing the moon before the sun caught us🌞

of course, it was not a dream, but a memory from before

I woke up remembering you are gone; you are here no more. . . 😕

Nothing good ever happened after 2A.M

When it's just 2A.M, just go to sleep. Nothing good ever happens after 2A.M.

2:45A.M- I stare at the clock and it's hand-stretched apart and I can't help but think of us "NEO". It's been 5 months since I last saw you.

2:48A.M- I text you and ask if you are awake and you reply almost instantly. You tell me you can't sleep because of all your exams and this helps you to keep you from thinking about us. I talk about my fears, haunting me inside and you open up about how you are fighting with depression because you anticipate a utopian world. I look at the clock and it's hands crawling towards each other.

3:04A.M-  I start telling you about my playlist. How I shifted to Louis Tomilson and john Mayer's songs from Taylor swift. I send you some of my favorite tracks and tell you how I still Love Coldplay's 'yellow' more than anything else. You laugh at how bad I've always been at choosing and prioritizing things. I tell you how I never hanker to choose my studies with a broken heart emoji. The hands of clocks start running at each other leaving everything behind.

3:17A.M- Text by text, emoji by emoji, we move closer. You said me 3rd time that you miss me too. I know you still keep visiting my Instagram profile, my blogs and you read it. You keep silent and send me a GIF. I replied when you are not able to express you use this weapon with a laughing emoji. You said that I should thank you as when I write about you I get super skilled.

3:28A.M- Thanks for the pain then. You replied ' it's kind of some special feeling that a person is giving so much time upon someone then I must have a special place for myself in your heart. I replied then you must appreciate or at least commented on my blogs but you will not express it as it hurts your ego. You said that I can never understand you. We fall asleep as the hour and minute hand become one.

10:28A.M- I see you online but you haven't texted me yet. Then you suddenly text me that you didn't mean your last line and the intention wasn't to hurt me again. I didn't replied. I believe we have our pieces to sweep.

I recall the quote that- Once it's 2A.M, you should probably go back to sleep because nothing good ever happens after 2A.M.

I look at the clock's hands. They are infinitesimally close, yet parting

I guess they are gonna be away for quite some time.